Sew Russia: It’s Not Meant For Everyone To Understand What You’re going Through

We all go through this thing called life. The journey and the paths we embark on is ours. It was given to us for a reason. We are who we are and where we are for a reason. It is our complete responsibility to do what is necessary to live a better life for ourselves.

Whether you believe it or not, your story; if accepted and worked through, can help impact another person in a positive way. Pain is tough, but some of the most beautiful things are birth through pain. The truth is bad things happen. Bad things happen to both people with good intentions, and those with bad intentions. It is impossible for me to believe that no one has not been through something that wasn’t devastating. If you haven’t…just keep living. Situations come in all forms and sizes. How we deal with our devastation is the key to coming out on the other side victorious.

Your character, values, morals, etc. will be tested. There is no stopping it. There is no changing it. What we can change is ourselves and how we handle our situations. You will become angry and frustrated. Sometimes you will need to vent. Sometimes you will need to cry it out. However, give yourself a minute to let it all out and then come up with a strategy to deal with your situation. Yes. You go through things. However, time stops for no one.

Now, this is NOT a post to bring your vibrations down. This is not to put you in a negative state of mind and/or space. This is not to say that ONLY bad things happen to all. Of course we all know that common sense as well as experience tells us that both good and bad things happen to all people. What I am telling you is not to always expect ONLY good things to happen. Prepare for the bad things too. Although we cannot see what is coming ahead. We can prepare in spirit and sometimes financially. I am saying BE AWARE.

Sometimes we will find ourselves wanting to confide in others. Sometimes we will want to vent to others. The truth is everyone has problems of their own. Only few people are willing to come out of their comfort zones to hear you out, and give you positive feedback. Some people are so consumed in their world and what’s going on in it, that they couldn’t receive what you are talking about even if they wanted to. Look at it like this…that’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes being ignored and our needs not met, pushes us to become a stronger people. It teaches us to seek within our spirit for guidance. Disconnect from humans equals connect with the spirit. After all, no one can truly tell you what you could and should be doing. They themselves are not perfect. Sometimes its not a bad thing to not receive vibrations that certain people can place on you.

Pray, meditate, listen to positive music. You don’t have to look like what you go through. Also, TRUST me, you DO NOT want to find yourself depressed. Once you’re there, it can be a hard battle to overcome. If there is no one around that you can share with maybe blog, or make videos. Help someone that feels the same way.You never know, venting your frustrations could help save lives, bring peace, help you to stress less, and it could make you some money in the long run. Let your pain bring you blessings and good gifts. Don’t play into what your pain looks like.You don’t want to get stuck there.

 

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Sew Russia On Domestic Violence: Abuse is Abuse is ABUSE

Violence is not a joking matter. My heart is broken by the number of times I have seen RIP to someone who stayed and endured domestic violence. I cannot say that I understand what goes on in the mind of a person who chooses to stay. I can say that I have been physically abused myself by my father on three occasions. Two times I was a child and had no choice in the matter. The last time I was an adult. I haven’t talked to him since, except in passing  once. One time he hit me hard across my face while driving in hisEdit car. The second time he hit me across my face again more than once a night before I went to school. That time I was in High School. I went to school the next day and everyone commented on my eyes and face. They knew something wasn’t right. However, I just said that I was tired from the night before. The third time. He came over to my Mom’s house. He hit me across my face and picked me up by my shirt, and threw me into my dresser. We called the police, but before the police were called…I went for the knife, and next my Mom’s gun. I was determined to kill him. I wanted to kill him. I felt like I deserved better. I knew I didn’t deserve to be hit. I did not want to be around a person who felt comfortable enough to hit people. I don’t care how much you cannot take the heat that comes from someone’s mouth. No one deserves to be hit. No one deserves to be abused.
Verbal abuse does count as abuse and/or violence. It is the beginning stage before that happens actually. People that spew hate at you truly hate themselves, their situation, or what they have been through. They feel that they had/have no control and instead of dealing with it in a positive way, they choose to act out in anger and aggression. You cannot fix a broken person nor is it your responsibility to do so. Only they can fix themselves, but first they must want it. They must want to change and they must work towards changing. I heavily and unapologetically do not believe in people’s words. People can say one thing one day, and do another or the same thing the next day. IF HE HIT YOU ONCE HE WILL DO IT AGAIN. I REPEAT…IF HE HIT YOU ONCE HE WILL HIT YOU AGAIN.

Also, you know what I have learned about domestic violence when it comes to people looking from the outside? NO ONE GIVES A SHIT UNTIL YOU ARE DEAD! The police of course let my father go. People only looked at it as an “argument” or like “Oh that was just you and your father getting into it” What in the entire FUCK? But if the result would have been that I had died that night due to domestic violent it would have been all kinds of RIP’s and she was such a great person. There would have been mountains of woulda, coulda, shoulda’s, and lies about what people told me to do. What I have learned about personal issues is that no one wants to deal with or hear about your personal issues. Very few people step out of their comfort zone to deal with or care about the well-being of others.

You have to decide at the end of the day what is best for you. Especially if you have children. You deserve to live the happiest and most peaceful life there is. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be around people who will love and tolerate you at your best and worst. You do not deserve to be hit. You do not deserve to be torn down. Those people who you think that you need, remove them and God will show you how much you didn’t need them. Nothing is worth your life, happiness, joy, abilities. Do not give your life and energy to a person who doesn’t deserve it. No one will care about you more than you care about yourself. People in this world are looking out for themselves on a daily basis. You have to make a choice to choose better for yourself. Being tied to people who drain you will not lead to a good ending. You have to believe in yourself. You have to know who you are. You have to stop tolerating things that shouldn’t be tolerated.

I do believe that women should carry some type of protection with them at all times. Yes. To be specific, I am talking about guns, knives, and hand held tazers, not no fucking pepper spray. Yes. I had to get completely filthy in language on this blog post because sometimes saying it nice and clean gets over looked. I want you to get mad, get offended, and do something about it. This even applies to those who witness it. Encourage them to get out!

If any one is saying or doing any of theses you need to leave immediately:

  • You ain’t shit.
  • You’re never going to be anything.
  • You won’t amount to nothing.
  • You need me.
  • You can’t do nothing without me.
  • You can’t do anything right.
  • You make me mad.
  • You make me want to hit you.
  • You make me do these things.
  • Nobody loves you.
  • I am the only one that loves you.
  • You’re not going to do it.
  • *Squeezing your arm (s) tight.
  • *Slapping you in the face*
  • *Hitting you in the face*
  • *Forcing you to have sex/Forcing themselves on you*
  • *Punching you in the stomach*
  • *Picking you up and throwing you*
  • *Shoving you*
  • *Choking you*

Please! Please! Take domestic violence seriously. Believe the people who tear you down. That really and truly is who they are. They are not acting. People can say I am sorry and go right back to doing the same things the next day. You cannot be sympathetic and empathetic to people who physically and verbally abuse you. There are people on this Earth who need you and what you have to offer. Know that you are important. Get help if needed, but most importantly…GET OUT & STAY OUT!

Visit the National Coalition for Domestic Violence’s website.

For anonymous, confidential help available 24/7, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) now.

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Sew Russia: 6 Ways to Finding Your Tribe 

Your tribe is a group of people who are willing to listen to you. Your tribe is willing to purchase your products. Your tribe is willing to see pass your flaws and still cheer you on. 

How do you find these people you ask?

I will post 6 ways that you can find your tribe. 

Let’s go!

1. Introduce Yourself/Talk to People

We can sometimes (or most of the time) find ourselves in the timid side because we don’t know what to say to people. Sometimes we don’t know if our personality will be received well with someone who doesn’t know us. Everyone loves to talk to someone they can relate to. There is nothing more refreshing than that. Start of with a simple “Hello!” and a smile. Hello’s and smile can lead to sales, you learning information that you didn’t know, and even unexpected blessings. You never know what’s behind a door until you knock.

2.Add People to Your Social Network

The purpose of social media is to connect with people that you probably wouldn’t get the chance to meet if there were no social media. Social media is a great tool for connecting to people and learning all about them. I would encourage you to be cautious as well. There are so many scams out there. Make sure that you are checking profiles to verify that they are real people. Do not give out personal information. If you are meeting someone meet at a public place like a coffe shop. Be very very careful.

3.Search Eventbrite/Newspaper

I LOVE Eventbrite! You can find so many events locally and nationally to attend. It is a great way to make connections in person. Not to mention you get to get out of the house for a bit. Also, you can check your local newspaper for any events coming up.

4.Go Live

I know. I know. I was nervous going live too, but it’s a great way to reach people outside of your friends list. You can go live on Periscope, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. Start of talking about things you have experience in, and as you grow so will your conversation.

5.Make Videos

People love hearing from people who have the same interests as them. Videos can be made to introduce something and to teach something. It is all in what you make of it. The more you add value the more valuable you become.

6.Post Content of Value

There is someone somewhere searching for something. Posting content of value means to enhance the life of another with either a product or service. This can also be in the form of entertainment and sharing experinces. However you want to start, do what you are comfortable with. They more you add value, the more vauable you are. The more you can improve the life of another the more sought after you become.

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Sew Russia: 7 Reasons Why People Don’t Hire or Work with Family and Friends

We all want to succeed and excel at something. It would be awesome and amazing if we could take the people closest to us along for the ride as well along the way to success. It doesn’t always work that way. The hard truth is that even if you always wanted to YOU CAN’T! People walk different paths all the time amd family and friends are no exception to that.
Here I will post 7 reasons why people choose to keep their family out of their professional business.

1.Personal vs. Business Conflict

A fine line needs to be drawn between business and personal to maintian a successful flow. When family or friends do not see your vision or respect it they tend to blurr those lines. They see you as family or a friend, and not an employee and/or co-worker. They tend to be more lax with you than they would be at any other place of employment. They are use to being personal with you so they don’t know or understand how to separate seeing you in a different light.

2.Feelings of Obligation

Family and friends do favors for each other all the time. When a person feels as if they have raised you or contibuted to who you are, they tend to feel as if you owe them.

3.Negative Opinions/ Steering Your Goals
Family and friends can be very  opinionated at times. Every opinion does not apply to you. Every opinion does not apply to your business. Every opinion is not meant to be taken an applied, even if it is heard. Sometimes  the opinions of family and friends can be so strong  that there can be tension if you do not do things the way that they see it.

4.Restraint of Full Work Potiential

Family and friends already have developed a certain type of relationship with you that they are accustom to. It maybe hard for them to break that habit. They may not work as hard, be as focused, or as driven as they would be if they were working with/for another employer. They may view it consciously or subconsciously as time to “hang”.

5.Your Business Is Everyone’s Business

When building a career for yourself you tend to take it personal. It can almost be like a child to You. You can find yourself being very protective over it. Everyone doesn’t understand that. You do not want every aspect of your business life being spread like the tabloids. Sometimes things can come up in conversation with others even when it’s not intended to be talked about.

6.Jealousy

There is no hiding it…jealousy exists. Especially within your own bloodline or with friends. Some people have a spirit of competitiveness, this can be a good thing. However, if using it in the wrong way it can be bad. Really bad. When people know you and have known you, they can see your success as a burden to them. They can find themselves wondering why they they weren’t given what you were given; not knowing how much you sacrificed and how hard worked for what you have. Jealousy can create conflict.

7.Communication Barrier: Not Wanting to be Told What to Do

Yes! People can be very stubborn and set in their ways. This can make it very difficult to work with others. When a person is not open to trying things outside of what they know and normally do, it is never good for a growing business.


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Sew Russia: Cheesy Spinach Chicken

I LOVE spinach, I love cheese, and chicken is a bonus. When combined it makes a yummy and affordable masterpiece lunch…or dinner.

I decided to experiment with what I had in my refrigerator. This recipe is so quick and easy and only called for 3 items, plus some spices.

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What you will need:

  • Bag of spinach
  • Frozen diced chicken or chopped chicken breast
  • Shredded cheese
  • Cayenne pepper
  • Salt 
  • Garlic powder
  • Thyme
  • Olive oil

1.Add olive oil to your pan

2.If you are chopping your chicken breast fresh you will need to cook that first until browned. Then throw in your spinach until wilted.Add in your spices as you are waiting for it to cook down.

3. If you bought a bag of diced chicken you can combine it with the spinach and seasonings until done.

4. Add in cheese and tie until melted.

5. Serve

Optional: You can also stuff this in a tortilla shell.
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Sew Russia: Authentically Me

​I don’t… 

*Get my eyebrows done regularly

*Wear make-up regularly

*Go get my hair done regularly

*Get my nails done regularly

* Apologize for it ever

*Compromise who I am and what I like to meet Earthly requirements ever

I am a plain Jane. I am EXTREMELY low maintenance and I LOVE it. That’s who I am. I have been judged by women who do wear make-up and these other things regularly. Still…I am me and they are them. I don’t judge anyone for living in their truth and I prefer mine to not be dictated as well. I love myself. I love who I am. I love who I have become. I love who I am becoming. The old school have always told me I had a wise soul. I just focus on growing in that. What I seek no one on Earth can give me. There as certain level I am reaching for and even I can’t see it, but I feel it. I appreciate where I am and what I am and grow from there.

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Sew Russia: Bomber Jacket Surprise 

Bomber jackets have seemed to have never gone out of style. Not only are they stylish, but can keep you very warm in the winter. I had been seeing these sequin bomber jackets floating around and I knew I just had to make one. Why not for my daughter of course!

My daughter is very patient when I have to see for others. Of course she wants her attention like any other six year old, but she allows me to work when I have projects due. This means that I have to sacrifice time with her to get it done.I always make sure that in the most of my working I create something for her as well as a thank you.

I haven’t seen any commercial patterns floating around on the shelves of stores so I turned to the book of Pinterest for help. I don’t know about you, but I love purchasing patterns from actual patternmakers/entrepenuers. They patterns seem a little more simpler to me.

I ran purchased my bomber jacket Patten from Sew a Little Seam. They also have a tutorial that you can follow along with. If you follow the instructions exactly you will get the same result. You can always put your own spin on it of course.

I used knit fabric for the inside lining and Ron knit for the cuffs and bands. All of these can be purchased at JoAnns or your local fabric store. I purchased my sequins fabric from a nifty Etsy store called SaltnPepper Design.
Here is some more views of the jacket.

Jacket inside

My daughter modeling her jacket.

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Sew Russia:Holiday Table Decor

I come from a world of humble beginnings. I learned at a very early age that I have to create the world I wanted. I grew up watch my mother and grand mother decorating their house and Making the most of what they had. They made middle class living look like luxury. I learned a lot of my creative skills from watch them and many others in my family.

It has been a shame that I have been in my house for months and I have not decorated. There has just been so much going on in Baton Rouge in the year 2016 that it really put a damper on my creative spirit, but I am slowly but surely regaining it.

My first project was decorating my dining room table. I am in love with the outcome. The colors of my kitchen are red and gold. Previously I didn’t really care for gold, but now I am completely obsessed with the color. 

I also did a tutorial on how I created these pieces for my table. Click the link to view it: How to Decorate Your Table For the Holidays.You can tweak it however you want. 

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Sew Russia: Behind the Seams- Golden Goddess

Oh how I LOVE creating pretty things. Its like a lot of hard work that is sewww worth it in the end. I had fun creating this piece I call the “Golden Goddess”.

The fabric screamed out royalty, which is EXACTLY how I want my clients to feel. I want them to be able to take a mental escape for a second and be in the moment with each piece I make.  

I have decided to take you behind the seams with this design.

I did get to dabble in a bit of draping. I don’t know if I sky rocketed to the advanced level (It felt like it). All I know is I was creating something that seemed like it was about to turn out really nice.

My daughter whom had been my fabric picking partner throughout this while journey picked out this fabric to go along with the color of this skirt. I thought it was a brilliant combination.

Here is the final look of the front.

Here is the final look of the back.

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