Where Was I 10 Years Ago?

Where was I 10 years ago? Ten years ago I was not in a good place. I felt hopeless. I felt like my future was shattered. I felt discouraged. I felt my confidence withering away. 10 years ago was the beginning of dismantling the old me and preparing me for transformation.

There are things that I would have liked to change in my journey, but I am sure that if I did I wouldn’t be where I am today. It was hard and it was a struggle. I was super young and the direction that I wanted for myself total seemed impossible. It seemed that the dreams and goals that I and made for myself were silly and unattainable. It’s sad to look back and see myself at that type of low. I was doing all kinds of things to try to hide the pain that I was feeling.

I have learned that the best form of healing is dealing. We have to learn to deal with our pain. We have to learn how to turn our pain around for the use of good. I believe that our pain is not only ours. It’s meant to be used to empower ourselves and as well as others. I wish I would have had a different outlook on things at that time. I wish I would have caught on to all that I know now. Then again, maybe everything that is happening at this time is meant to happen at this exact moment and at this exact time.

The good news is, instead of becoming bitter about it all I choose to empower and pour positive energy into others. I know that you can’t please everyone; everyone will not agree with you, people will not always receive you and what you have to say, etc. Still, I try to be the type of person I wish I had around. Now I won’t say I didn’t have my days where I felt moody and low. Everyone goes through the motions. It’s life. Its normal, but you don’t stay there. You have to gather yourself to push through your pain.

My Biggest Regret

We all have had or have regrets. We all have things stored inside of our minds that we wish we had executed or said. No one is perfect. No one will completely get everything right all of the time. WE ALL HAVE REGRETS.

I would have to say that one of my BIGGEST regrets is giving up on my dreams to be an adult. I thought that being an adult meant that you could not do the things that were fun to you, and that came to you naturally. I thought things that came to you naturally and easy were wrong, and that it would never lead to success. I thought that life would have to be hard all of the time in order to survive it. I thought a lot of negative and wrong things.

Now at this stage in my life I think that the way that I thought then was silly and immature. I think that it was unsuccessful thinking, which was setting me up for destruction. However, looking back, at that specific time in my life I did not have positive surroundings. It can get very complex when you don’t have the right circle,  or the right people around you who believe in the same things you do. 

A lot of people think that following your dreams is a silly and tedious task that will cost a lot of money. Well, let’s look at it this way, so will going to school for 2-4 years. Even with that you’re still not guaranteed to get a job at all, or one that pays you what you deserve. It does not work like that for everyone. People are hiring people mostly for who they know, and least of all for what you know. Which I think is a HUGE gamble, because the survival of any company depends upon those who are truly qualified, and dedicated to help it thrive. Note I said thrive…not survive. Surviving means doing what it takes to make it. Thriving means to go beyond that.

So it is my promise to myself to value my own gifts and wisdom regardless of who doesn’t. I have seen more growth with starting a business of my own than I have in working for someone else. When I worked for someone my ideas were pushed aside, in some cases stolen, my intelligence was belittled, I was underestimated, I was not giving an opportunity to move up, etc. I had to fight ridiculously, and still saw no results. With my natural born gifts all I have had to do is create it, create a strategy, and put it out there.

No path is going to be all laid out for you. No path is going to be easy, but I do feel that we will be eventually lead in the direction that is meant for us, whether we reject it or not. We will have to come to peace with our destiny, and what’s means for us. I am learning that what’s meant for us is not always the pictures that are painted to us by society. It’s the pictures that are painted inside of the heart and soul.

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My Thoughts On The Orignal Black Panther Party

I watched the Black Panthers Documentary on Netflix this week. So many thoughts ran through my head about this short film. I don’t even know where to begin. As an African-American dark skin woman, I can say that there definitely are injustices and discrimination that still go on today. It’s just crazy to me. I do agree with people having the right to protect themselves from harmful environments. Not everyone has good intentions, and even good intentions don’t always come out in a good way.

I think it was very sad to see how people were being treated openly. It was sad to see one set of people trying to keep the other at ground level to satisfy their ego and well being. So they felt they had to do things that way.

However, on the upside, I think that the programs that they created were phenomenal and inspiring. It inspired me to want to be more proactive. It was beautiful seeing a community come together in fellowship. It was inspiring to see people getting along for the greater good. It was great to see the poor and unfortunate being helped against a system that was designed to destroy them. It was great to see confidence and an uprising despite the challenges that they had faced. Still today there are poor and unfortunate people that need help. It seems that in today’s society people are least like to care than they once were.

I think what everyone in this world is meant to be free. People want to be valued. People want to live a good life. People want to be respected and treated fairly. People want to be able to eat. People want to be able to raise their children in a world that is mostly good. Most people want the best and some people feel they have to step on and oppress others to get it.

This may be true, I have learned in my adult life that equality and fairness cannot be applied to every situation. How you want to be treated and what another person will allow maybe two total opposites. However, boundaries must be set and a system should be created that is in favor of all not just those who came, saw, and, conquered. I think that the Black Panthers documentary, although it did have its downsides, was a brilliant explanation of what the organization was and what it originally stood for.

The organization wanted to end street bullying (Basically). The organization wanted to help the community’s and their children. There were great motives behind forming this organization. They were fearless, courageous, and they did not have to do what they did. They wanted a better environment and world just like anyone else.

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Why It’s Important To Step Outside Of Your Comfort Zone


I will not say that I am completely perfect in this area. Getting out of my comfort zone has scared me most of my life. We all want to be comfortable. We don’t want to feel any pain. We don’t want to go through any hardships. We don’t want to struggle. Who wants to do any of that? It’s not fun and it doesn’t feel good. Why would anyone want to do that?

Well, believe to or not growth is on the other side of the comfort zone. We cannot grow if we are always comfortable. We cannot gain knowledge, connect with people, build a better life, and in some cases have fun, if we are always comfortable. Life is a balance of ups and downs. Everyday won’t be a good day. What I have also learned as an adult…every path won’t be straight and narrow. Every situation will not be laid out on the table.

Sometimes you will have to figure things out. Sometimes you will have to say and do things that are not popular. Some of the things you will have to say and do will scare the mess out of you. You will never grow if you don’t push through the fear and the “what if’s”. Our minds can play tricks on us at times. It will tell us that we are not capable of doing things and that we shouldn’t do things. We are tricked, by our minds, into thinking that is the right way to go. What I have learned in my adult years is sometimes doing the “right thing” is not the right thing.

I have learned that not all planned things are carried out successfully. You have to know how to impromptu and roll with the punches at times. Getting what you want will never be easy. It will never be a skip across a field of roses. You have to be willing to get dirty and messy (Figuratively and in some cases…literally). Getting out of your comfort zone is necessary for growth, moving forward, and accomplishing goals/tasks. You will ever know what you can become if you never get out of our comfort zone.

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Sew Russia:The Book That Influenced My Life


One of the books that has influenced my life is “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.  At first when looking at the title my thought was…”I really don’t care if people like me or not.” Despite my arrogance about the title, my soul challenged me to look beyond what I was just reading with my eyes. Maybe there was a deeper meaning and something to be learned. Of course, as we all do…I had it ALL WRONG.

By no means was Dale asking you to kiss anyone’s butt. He was urging his readers to pick and choose their battles carefully. He was challenging his readers to be strategic. You know that old saying, “You can catch more flies with honey”? Everything begins and ends in the mind. I think his message overall was if we can control our minds, actions, and words; we can end up getting more of what we want than what we have been accustomed to.

I think that this book, even decades later, is pure brilliance. Personally, it challenged me to think a bit more. It challenged me to use my mind in a way that I never thought of. It challenged me to discipline my thoughts before the words come out of my mouth. Every situation does not have to be an ugly battle. I think we either lose sight of that, or some people simply just do not know that.

I recommend this book to anyone who wants to change their life. I definitely recommend this book to entrepreneurs. Anyone who wants to become an influencer should read this book. This book will definitely help you gain more insight. You will see growth as you apply the knowledge given in this book.

Here is a photo of the hard copy I have at home:

Enjoy!

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