Hello! Welcome! I hope everyone is having a great day/week so far!
We all experience depression, anxiety, and/or stress at one time in our lives or another. The sad truth is many of us don’t even know we have it, and we don’t seek to deal with it. Also, the people around us tell us that we have nothing to worry about, it’s all, in our head, don’t think like that, etc.
First let me say this before anything. IT IS NEVER OK TO NOT DEAL WITH THESE THREE THINGS. YOU NEED TO FACE THEM BOLDLY.
In order to deal with and conquer the beast you must first understand it and know it’s nature. If you don’t know who/what it is and what it does…you will never be able to conquer it. You must first study before taking the test or becoming great at any thing. The teacher at one point was the student.
With that being said…let’s get into the definition and signs of each below.
Depression – A mood disorder causing a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest.
The persistent feeling of sadness or loss of interest that characterizes major depression can lead to a range of emotional and physical conditions. These include inability to sleep or concentrate on tasks. Changes in appetite, decreased energy level, and thoughts of suicide are also seen.
Anxiety– A mental health disorder characterized by feelings of worry, anxiety, or fear that are strong enough to interfere with one’s daily activities
Symptoms include stress that’s out of proportion to the impact of the event, inability to set aside a worry, and restlessness.
Stress– a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.
Becoming easily agitated, frustrated, and moody, Feeling overwhelmed, like you are losing control or need to take controlHaving difficulty relaxing and quieting your mindFeeling bad about yourself (low self-esteem), lonely, worthless, and depressed, Avoiding others
The second thing I want to say is…TAKING MEDICATION DOES NOT CURE THE PROBLEM. IT SOOTHES THE WOUND.
Taking medication for depression, anxiety, and Stress WILL NOT make your problems go away. It is like a bandaid. It will cover the wound, but it does not heal it. WOUNDS HEAL WENT YOU TAKE ACTION TO NURSE IT and/or THEY HEAL ON THEIR OWN.
We have to learn to fight when it’s necessary and let go when we have to.
A thought ran across my mind. My sister said to me not too long ago, “A couple of month’s to a year ago my sister looked like she was dying. Now you look more alive than you have every been. Please don’t let anything stop you from doing what you are doing!”
Wow! Those words were more powerful than she will ever know.
What was I doing around a month ago?
I was working jobs that:
1.Would not give me a raise or promotion and demoted me.
2. Demanded so much of me even off the clock.
3. Micromanaged me and believed every word a customer said no matter what, and grilled me for it whether I was right or wrong.
4. Did not see my value and just needed to fill a position
5. Would send other employees on the same level as me to monitor me, and report back to them what I was doing.
6. Did not hear me when I said I was not feeling well.
7. Constantly blamed me for things that were never my fault to begin with…but needed someone to blame to take heat off of them.
In addition to that, I had internal bleeding that no doctor could explain. I truly was dying, and I did not know how to make it stop. My family was afraid and worried. My husband, daughter, and mother in tears. It was scary. I found myself in tears everyday.
Then one day…the creator told me to quit. That same day the thought came to mind, I replied back…NO! I will not cause my family to be set back. We were finally getting back on the right track financially and we were trying to buy a house.
To make a long story short. I was fired that same day, after the creator told me to quit that morning and I said no. The bleeding stopped two weeks after I was fired and we bought a house three months later. Now tell me the creator is not awesome!
No matter where you are in life there is always hope. Everyone can make it in their own way. The creator always provides an opportunity for you to step up, or step out whether we see it or not. Whether we think it’s worth the risk…you will be pushed into your destiny anyway.
So with that being said. Lets look at some ways to conquer these three things!
1. Evaluate Your Surroundings.
Surroundings are very important. Our surroundings consist of the people we keep contact with/connect with and the places that we dwell. Our surroundings can make or break us. Our surroundings will determine our success or failure. Surroundings affect how we think, act, speak. You cannot surround yourself with negative people and dangerous environments and expect to get anything positive out of the situation.
I know, in the case of family and close friends this can be difficult. You have grown up around these people and you love them. I am hear to tell you. Being around someone constantly does not determine the altitude of your love for them. Love yourself and surround yourself with the people and things that align with your journey and goals. This includes work environments as well.
2.Speak Words & Phrases of Affirmation To Yourself & Others
How you speak about yourself will determine how you treat others. You cannot treat people with love and respect of you do not treat yourself to It first. Some examples include:
1. I am great.
2. I can do this./ I can do anything.
3. I am going to do great.
Just to name a few phrases.
3. Find An Outlet
Everyone has bad and stressful days. We have to find something to help us release our frustrations. When we allow our frustrations remain dormant they build up over time. Often we don’t even know what’s wrong with us, but we have allowed certain things to go on without dealing with them. The worst thing you could do is NOT DEAL with your situation. The truth is…eventually you will have to.
Maybe talking it out, painting, singing, sewing/crafting will help bring you peace. Find something that helps you deal with and forgive your situations.
4. Say No
It is completely OK to say no. The truth is majority will get upset with you when you say no and/or do spiteful things because you did. However, your well being is important too. Learn to say no and not feel sorry for doing so.
5. Speak Up For Yourself
A lot of the time we don’t say what we want to say or what we mean to say. Voicing your view in the most civil manner will do you more good than anything. Of course it comes with opposition most of the time. Living in your truth will help attract the life you want to live and the type of people you what in your life.
6. Walk Away From Situations & People That Devalue You
You must value and respect yourself if you want others to do so. Sad truth is Some people will not see your value even when you shine. Guess what…that’s OK. Move on from them. You will never grow in an environment where you are not appreciated. You will never grow in an environment that will not allow you to utilize your gifts. Move on. Move away from those situations and the people who contribute to it. You have every right to be where you want to be!
7. Pray More & Pray With Your Actions
We have all heard that there is power in prayer. There is also power in action. Make sure that each day you are writing down goals and accomplishing them. You will find yourself feeling even more confident the more you accomplish your goals.
I hope this was helpful to someone. If not acknowledged, and dealt with depression, anxiety, and stress can spiral into chaotic situations in our lives; as well as our health. If we love, and take care of ourselves first, we won’t accept anything less.
Have a great weekend!
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